We got there a little late, but we didn't miss too much thankfully...and I actually found that I could have a Taco salad from the menu. Well, sort-of at least. I had to have them take off the sour cream and guacamole. Then when it came out with legumes and cheese on it I was shocked because I hadn't noticed it on any other the other ones on the table. Oh well!
This diet of mine is for the birds, I tell you!! If my ability to function was not solely dependent on it, I would not live like this at all. Not to mention that all the sudden the girl who will eat ANYTHING is suddenly the pickiest order-er in the world. What is up with that?
Seriously, I used to enjoy going out for sashimi with my dad while I was in junior and senior high school...um, yesterday. Er, yeah...something like that. Well, I am pretty sure you got the point here so I'll move on to more interesting topics like RAD and attachment disorders.
The lecture was wonderful. She talked about alternative methods for talking to kids about consequences. (Please bear in mind that the target audience for this lecture is foster parents and not biological parents!!!)
- She pointed out that grounding a child for leaving their bicycle in the driveway where it was stolen is overkill for these children because not being able to ride their bicycle is a natural consequence for their action and enough on its own.
- She pointed out that grounding a child for a curfew violation is not a good way to handle these types of children either. She explained that a better way to handle the situation is to tell the child that coming late betrayed your trust and since you can no longer trust them to come home by 9:00 PM their new curfew will be 8:00 PM, but they can earn your trust back and regain the privilege of having a 9:00 PM curfew by making sure that they are home by the new curfew every night for the next 30 days.
- She suggested instead of telling the child they need to take a time out, say "this is getting too much for you right now, you need to take a break" as an alternative.
- She also suggested never using the words punishment, time out, grounding, etc. with a child with attachment issue. When you are working with a child with these types of problems, you need to think outside the box as a resource parent.
She also gave us information on how to download a pdf for helping children cope with transitions, but I cannot remember the information on it. I'll up-link the info and a link for this soon.
The bad news was that the state rejected my second set of fingerprints...and both of mom's set too. Bad genes. I'm pretty sure it is this one because I checked out the other two in the other article and we do not have any of the traits plus mom is half Swiss and that makes me a quarter.
My sister Leslie had the same problem when she got her nursing license, but the DOPL used a spray to build her fingerprints up. I wonder if I can find an article on that technology on here. Blast! No luck...the only technique I could find was milking the finger, but the other one does exist also and it worked for Leslie because the FBI did not reject her prints back.
The reason this matters is because this is the only thing holding up our foster care license right now.
Some people may wonder why we've chosen to foster/foster to adopt because I'm not that old. The decision was simple for us. Matt is adopted and I always thought when I married my family would foster children after our biological children were grown. Little did we know that the Lord's timetable for our lives was a little bit different from our own, but as soon as we found out we would be unable to have natural children the choice to have many children through fostering quickly became the best choice for our family. So, now we wait but with prayers and patience things will come together in the Lord's time...which as we know so well, is definitely not on my Franklin. ;o)
Good night!
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